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How can I help? -
Some
guidelines for friends and relatives of someone who is experiencing
grief.
What are the kind of things a grieving
person appreciates, and what is the appropriate thing to say to
someone in such a situation? These do’s and don’ts may prevent you
feeling awkward because you don’t know what to say or do around
someone who’s recently lost a loved one.
The DON’T Phrases
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“He (or she)
is in a better place.” |
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“Yes, you
told me about it.” |
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“Time will
pass, you’ll be fine.” |
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I know just how you’re feeling.” |
The DO Phrases
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Simply saying “I am sorry” and being natural is
often enough |
The DON’T Actions
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Don’t start packing away
photos, clothes or belongings of the person who has died. They
can bring great comfort. |
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Don’t show pity. |
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Let the person cry – it’s a
sign of sadness, nor weakness. Your arm round his/her shoulder
will be comforting. If the bereaved person wants to talk, be a
good listener; don’t hurry them. Sitting without talking isn’t a
cue to make sure there’s constant conversation; silence can be
very comforting. If you want to take a gift, take something
thoughtful, like a plant or picture frame. Or give a donation in
memory. Offer practical help – like supplying meals or fetching
children from school. |
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Show respect for that person’s
feelings. |
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